Where to Get Help

If you or someone you know is in trouble, there are many people who can help. You are not alone.

Let a person you trust in your family or community know if:

  • Someone is talking about hurting you or others.
  • You believe a violent extremist is contacting or recruiting you.
  • You see suspicious behavior that might lead to violent extremism.
  • You come across violent extremists on social media or the Internet.

If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, call 911 or local law enforcement.

For information on how to prevent and report bullying, visit www.stopbullying.gov

Conflict Resolution Tips

From the National Crime Prevention Council:

Whether you’re in a fight with your best friend or angry at your parents, conflict is a part of everyday life. We all get mad at one another at some point in time. The real question is whether you can handle the situation in a non-violent way.

Understand your own feelings about conflict:

  • Learn what makes you angry or emotional.
  • Know these triggers so you can better control your reactions.

Practice active listening:

  • Notice tone, body language, and other clues to what the person is saying.
  • Pay attention to what the other person is saying instead of planning your response.

I’m right. You’re wrong. How can we ever agree?

  • Discuss the issue without insults or blame.
  • Be honest about what you want and need.
  • Be flexible and open-minded.
  • Be strong enough to admit when you’ve made a mistake or hurt someone else.
  • Offer an apology so you both can move forward.

Confront the issue head on:

  • Keep your voice calm. Never yell or scream.
  • Be direct about what’s bothering you.
  • Use “I” statements, not “You” statements, which put blame on the other person.
  • Ask—don’t demand.
  • Once is enough. Don’t keep repeating your point.

Come up with suggestions for solving the problem:

  • Come up with your own suggestions.
  • Brainstorm as many solutions as you can.

We just can’t agree...

  • Ask someone you trust to hear both sides and help decide what you should do.
  • Take an anger management course to learn how to take control over your emotions before they take control over you.

When to Report Violent Extremism

Below are possible warning signs of someone planning to commit violent extremism. None of these signs alone mean a person will act. Use your common sense and consider everything you know about this person. Think about whether you have seen any sudden or suspicious changes in behavior. Maybe you have noticed something that doesn’t seem quite right or you are worried or scared about what this person is saying or doing.

Please contact a person you trust if someone you know is:

  • Spending a lot of time reading violent extremist information online, including in chat rooms and password-protected websites;
  • Using several different cell phones and private messaging apps;
  • Talking about traveling to places that sound suspicious;
  • Researching or training with guns or explosives;
  • Studying or taking pictures of potential targets (like a government building);
  • Using code words or unusual language;
  • Looking for ways to disrupt computers or other technology;
  • Staying away from friends or family while becoming very interested in violent extremist beliefs and propaganda; and/or
  • Posting comments encouraging violence on social media sites or online forums.

Remember that extremist thoughts are not against the law. However, the warning signs above could mean that someone plans to commit violence. If you come across something suspicious, don’t hesitate to report it.

Who to Contact for Help

Immediately tell a person you trust—especially your parents or other family members—if a violent extremist contacts you or you come across any suspicious or dangerous behavior. You can also talk with one of the following adults in a position of authority:

In your school: Teacher, principal, guidance counselor, coach, nurse, or administrator.

In your community: Community or civic leader, family doctor, faith-based leader, social worker, or crisis intervention specialist.

In local law enforcement: Police officer, county sheriff or deputy, FBI agent or FBI field office staff, U.S. attorney, or district attorney.